Covid 19: "Are sex workers more exposed to the virus? Am I as a client therefore more exposed if I continue to see sex workers during the outbreak? What can I do as a provider/ as a client, to protect myself and my client/ provider?"
The answer to these questions will depend in large parts on how you plan on taking care of yourself and others during a public health crisis. Personally, I don't believe that sex workers are more exposed or vulnerable to an infectious virus than any other client facing service industry employees, or professionals whose schedule requires them to travel frequently and come into close physical contact with many different people. Because of the nature of our work, sex workers are already used to monitoring their health, going for regular check ups and applying good personal hygiene. We are also diligent when it comes to self care by watching our diet, fitness and mental health since it all affects our energy levels and, now even more importantly, our immunity.
We all have to carry out our own risk assessment and decide how we are going to go on with our regular life and work activities while minimizing risk. For myself, as a touring companion who is used to traveling far and wide, it means changing to a more sedentary lifestyle, restricting my personal and business travels as well as limiting the numbers of appointments I take.
From you as a client, I expect the same attention to hygiene and personal responsibility, that you are honest when I inquire about your recent travel history, that you don't come to a date feeling unwell, just as I will not go into a booking if I'm not in peak condition.
Everyone will have their own coping system, their own requirements of what makes them feel safe. The situation is ever evolving and we have to improvise and adapt as best as we can. The important thing is to stay informed, be patient and be kind to one another and use common sense rather than to give in to paranoia and xenophobia. Remember, fear is a virus as well :)
The most marginalized among us will suffer the most, survival sex workers who don't have the option to stop working, work less or choose their clients, who don't have access to government assistance packages and subsidies. The only help they may get will be coming from their local sex worker support group. If you have funds to spare, please consider making a donation to your local fundraiser, you can find information online or on social media like this list compiled by Sexworkeurope.org
Further reading on how the Covid-19 pandemic impacts sex workers, read this great article
P.S. Shoutout to the individuals who have reached out to me, asking if there is anything they can do to support me through this turmoil. Like most of my FSSW colleagues, I am bracing myself for an unknown period of serious disruption and an even more uncertain future. I am not so badly off yet, that I have to ask for charity. Instead, taking a leaf from my resourceful peers, I am looking into creating digital content and virtual gfe exclusively for patrons who offer some form of material support. More on my Spoil-Me Page
P.P.S. My Onlyfans page is up and running. Please contact me for the link. If you prefer to have my selfies sent directly to your inbox, there are more than 3 dozen sets of never before published explicit selfies ready for purchase by interested parties. Please use my contact form to inquire about details.
What SERVICES do you offer?
Whether you like or hate acronyms, for the sake of transparency, I present you with a list of what I offer and what I don't offer: to see my comprehensive list of Yes, please! or Don't-You-Dare! activities, please scroll down
Do you offer EXTRAS?
My rates are all inclusive with the exception of A-level service, which is only available at my discretion and attracts a surcharge of 200 euro / chf / gbp or 300sgd.
You only incur added expenses when you ask me to travel to you, buy a special outfit or accessories, book a hotel room for our rendezvous etc. These will be quoted to you and need to be paid in full before our meeting.
WHERE can I meet you?
As an international travel companion, I go where my clients need me and where my own wanderlust takes me.
Currently, I'm dividing my time between SEA and EU.
SG/ KL, BKK are the cities where you will find me on a regular basis, Basel, Berlin, London are favorites on the continent, but I am always happy to discover more places.
If you are serious about meeting me, please contact me for pre-screening. Once you are in my circle of trust, you will be notified if I am heading to a city near you.
On the other hand, if you are a man of action, why wait?
Fly/ train me to you :)
How much NOTICE do you require?
I like a man with a plan. The more notice you can give, the greater the chance that I can make my schedule fit yours. You are always welcome to contact me on short notice if you can't plan in advance. You never know when you might get lucky :)
When are you AVAILABLE?
My schedule is fluid, I don't have a set preference, weekdays are as good as weekends, daytime trysts can be as pleasurable as night time assignations.
ALL ABOUT THE MONEY:
How should I take care of the Business Part?
At the beginning of our meeting, ideally in an open envelope, left on the table, discreetly of course when we meet in public. Some clients like to tuck it into a book, a gift bag or flower bouquet. It's really up to you which method suits you best.
What currencies do you accept?
Generally, I expect your consideration in the currency of the country where we meet. I may accept a different currency but you need to check with me first before we meet, unless you are adding the foreign currency as a tip. Notes should be clean, not scribbled on, torn, or badly discolored .
Do you accept cashless payments?
Cash is king for now. I accept a number of gift vouchers for deposit payments. Bank/wire transfer may be an option too. I may be open to barter but you'd have to come up with something spectacular to gain my interest :)
What is your Deposit/ Cancellation Policy?
To separate the genuine clients from the timewasters, a small deposit (usually 10% of the total booking fee plus travel expenses where applicable) is required to secure your appointment. Travel expenses are non refundable but deposits can be put forward to the next booking if you reschedule within 6 months.
Do you offer Outcall / Incall?
Outcall is the default option, incall is available in some but not all cities I visit. Please reach out to discuss.
HOW SOON can I expect to hear from you?
I don't use an assistant, I answer all my emails myself. Generally I try to reply to all inquiries within 24h, sometimes it may only take a few hours, sometimes you may hear from me the next day. If you don't hear back from me, I may be busy, or I may be selective. If you can't be bothered writing a proper enquiry, I won't bother writing back :)
How much to Fly You To Me?
The minimum duration for a Fly Me booking is 2 hours private time. For tailor made packages, you are welcome to contact me for a quote, I'm happy to discuss details via email.
Travel expenses and hotel lodgings need to be paid in advance to confirm your booking and are non-refundable.
For longer dates, e.g. multiple day escapes, I am happy to offer preferential package deals.
Alternatively, you may try to catch me if I happen to come to a city near you. If you want to know about any such current offers or keep up to date on future pop ups, I highly recommend that you pre-screen and join my mailing list via my contact page.
Do you mind a client's AGE, RACE, DISABILITY?
The only way a client disqualifies himself is by not respecting my boundaries, refusing to follow my booking process and failing screening. I don't care about your age, weight, height, nationality, ethnic background, religious or political affilia-tion, if you can't play by my rules, you don't get to play at all. Disabled clients, please explain the nature of your disability so I can be mindful!
For more info on what I find ok in a client, read my blog
Do you SCREEN?
Yes, I would be foolish not to, safety comes first! I try to keep the screening process as discreet and hasslefree as possible. I accept various forms of verification, references where feasible, or a professional online profile can go a long way to put my mind at ease.
What I do best is often described as a girlfriend experience - pure intimacy, unrushed, passionate, sensual, with a hint of wickedness, a bit of kink, naughty but nice. Those who have experienced it and prefer it will know that it is less about ticking off a list of services than the quality of the time we spend together, the connection we build, the mutual satisfaction of delighting in each other's pleasures.
But for those who seek a more prosaic description, I have assembled a list of acronyms you will be well familiar with.
The list of DONT'S looks short, but it is important to me that you understand that these are the things that are outside of my comfort zone, which means they're not up for negotiation and any attempt from you to do so will result in me tearing your head off and use it as a pin cushion.
If you are specifically looking for these services, there are untold numbers of providers out there who will take your money, you will be much happier in their hands.
- No unprotected services.
- No scat, spit or blood play.
- No bondage or other forms of restraints on me unless previously discussed and agreed.
- Any activity that puts my personal safety at risk or might offend the public (e.g. outdoor play).
- Light spanking is fine, but nothing that leaves marks on my skin (no hickies, bruises, scratches, etc.).
Below you'll find the activities I'd be glad to include in our explorations. The list is not exhaustive, so if there is something you don't see in this post that you like to try, I'm open to suggestions. If some of these terms are unfamiliar to you, just ask, or better, google it, as I had to do myself on a few occasions :)
DFK (hint: oral hygiene, brush, floss, gargle mouth wash, chew mints)
DATY (on me, on you - if you are a lady - and on your lady friend)
Rimming (on me)
Greek at my discretion and for an added fee of 200 euro/ chf/ gbp. Advance notice required.
COB, COF (avoid eyes, nose, ears and lips)
Erotic full body massage, body slide with oil, silicon lube or nuru* (*extra charge applies, subject to availability)
Prostate massage *snapping on the gloves*
Testicular tongue massage (hint: wash thoroughly and manscape)
Mutual masturbation (light fingering is fine, please read my post on The Art of Fingering)
Couples (MFF+), Orgies (I'm happy to engage with multiple partners of all genders as long as my boundaries are respected), Lesbian doubles, Straight doubles
My Fetish Services include:
Foot fetish (please indicate your preferences, nude, stockings etc.)
Sensual Femdom (light)
Golden shower (on you)
Nipple torture, CBT (on you)
Living Doll play
Mummification (on you)
Tease and Denial
Consensual Non-consensual Role Play
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